Speak from heart
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Now Maybe Finally™: The Miracle of Speaking Truth
I want to share with you how someone named Naomi benefited from a conversation we had and the heart-felt observations she made that will help all of us. Her moving observations will be inspirational whether we are public speaking, handling a relationship issue or simply walking our talk in life each day.
Naomi wrote this grateful e-mail to me: “Thank God for the many angels that surround us. I had several setbacks including injuring my dominant arm that kept me from work for four months and the resulting financial strain. Several friends had family members pass away creating an emotional roller coaster as I was recovering from grieving for my father. As a participant in a weekly mastermind phone conference, I found myself needing more support to move forward. I was not fully present in the call, and proceeded to mention that I had a difficult time creating a title for my professional speaker services, but provided something off the top of my head.”
Note that Naomi is a dynamic woman with phenomenal insights to help others move forward with self-esteem issues and allow them to live the life they have always dreamed of living. Yet, I knew she couldn’t create a title for her talk because of a limiting belief that was holding her back and I knew that limiting belief would prevent her from being effective.
Naomi went on to say: “As I was speaking, Linda extended an invitation to call her after our session. That call let me see my life in a way I had not seen before. She asked me to share a memory that was making me now feel the way I had felt another time. I didn’t have to think long, because a recent exchange with a co-worker immediately came to mind. She asked when I felt that way before and the light came on as she pointed out the pattern of behavior. I talked about a disturbing email from my manager while on medical leave, the end of my marriage, and even the loss of my dad. As I cried and Linda listened, I felt the heaviness of my heart being lifted. I was not aware of how each time something happened with a relationship, I had withdrawn thinking I was not good enough.
Linda asked me to write the following which transformed me in the process:
1) I am not responsible for any impropriety that someone else performed on another individual.
2) I am not responsible for anyone else’s responses except my own.
3) I, Naomi, accept the responsibility that I have a powerful message to share with those who are ready to hear it… As soon as I am ready to let go of what’s been holding me back.”
At this point, I asked Naomi to write what was in her heart, not what I asked. Naomi wrote from her heart:
4) “I am ready to let go –1000 percent!
5) I am giving myself permission to follow my heart.
6) I am willing to open my heart again because an open heart is the source of love.
7) I accept responsibility to lead and grow.
8) I am a student learning to embrace the next part of my journey.
9) I am open to receive love and support.
10) I release the shame of failure, I am a winner.
- I allow myself to speak what I know without comparing to others.
- I accept my unique gifts and share them with the world.
- I accept love and support for my vision.
- I am not giving up on me.
The amazing part about this conversation is that we did not know each other, but after the call, I felt like Linda knew my inner soul essence.”
I don’t always know how people hear of my services. They have heard me speak, have read this column, heard about me via television, radio, teleseminars and social media. Although I’m always interested in how they find me, I am more interested in helping them become the speakers they want to be to get their messages and gifts out into the world.
Today’s LINDAism: Limiting beliefs truly prevent us from moving forward. NOW, MAYBE, FINALLY we can all move forward by identifying what holds us back and continue life with all the grace and dignity we are each meant to have.
Linda Blackman, CSP, is an award-winning broadcast journalist, co-author of THE SALES COACH, has articles in numerous publications and is one of 578 people worldwide who is a Certified Speaking Professional. Utilize Linda’s expertise to help you and your company with public speaking, how to handle the media, crisis communications and selling more effectively. Reach Linda at Linda@LindaBlackman.com, www.LindaBlackman.com or at The Executive Image International, LLC at 239-777-1776.
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